Life will teach us not to make permanent decisions based on temporary emotions. More than once I have been so glad that I didn’t react or respond the way I was initially thinking; this has not always been the case. There have also been plenty of times when I wished that I was only dreaming that I reacted the way that I did.
Not burning bridges to me doesn’t mean to act like what happened didn’t happen. However, I choose to be very strategic about my next steps knowing that what I do or say in the next moment will determine what will happen in another season in my life. Simply put, what we sow we reap, regardless of who did what and we normally reap way more than owe sow. We are still responsible for our own response.
Besides the sowing and reaping principles being in effect, when we don’t properly discern people, we could be cutting off our nose to spite our face. We cannot allow our immature, emotional outburst to ruin our lives. It is critical that we are intentional about our personal development. We must interrogate our thoughts, reactions, and responses. We should not be respecters of persons, we should treat everyone with the highest level respect, then you can expect this in return. Even if people treat us with the highest level of respect, we should do it because of who we are and not the way we are being treated.
I choose to live life as if God sees and knows everything. I often say that I am doing what I do as wholeheartedly unto the Lord, especially when I am doing good deeds. I have learned that regardless of how people treat me, I have an avenger Who is looking out for me. I am not concerned about anyone getting over on me, taking advantage of me, lying on me, or trying to assassinate my character because I am fully persuaded that God is on my side and He is fighting for me. He will defend me and disarm my enemies. All I have to do is maintain my righteous course. God has a plan for my life. He has people set up to use their power, influence and ability on my behalf.
At the end of the day, I don’t have to burn any bridges because those who do not belong in my life will leave. There is a saying that goes something like, those who couldn’t leave stayed and those who couldn’t stay left…when people want to leave you, let them go, they are not connected to our destiny. Their season in our lives is over. Their departure doesn’t end our journey or our purpose. It is quite possible that our paths will connect later on in life under different circumstances.
My discoveries have been that I had a tendency to stay in situations longer than I should have out of commitment, loyalty, etc. however, not everyone recognizes, respects, or appreciates that; therefore, we have to be responsible enough to look out for our own selves and keep it moving, however, that does not mean we have to burn that bridge behind us. Mature people leave room for future interactions. None of us truly know who and when will need someone to be there for us, and the person that we cut off is the person with our answer. I don’t want to be cut off from anything that is designed to increase or improve my life. I refuse to let immaturity or pride rob me of the bright future I know God has for me.
Life can be a beast sometimes, but our lives are made better when we choose to endure hardness as a good solider, instead of cutting people out of our lives without any regard to what God truly intended for us to gain from the experience. On the other hand, if you know you’re connected with someone that you should cut ties with, there is a way to do that without being offensive.
Before responding, my recommendation is to make sure you’re not acting out of your emotions. Think big picture; things may not have worked out ideally, but what is the lesson? What did you learn? What was your role? What would you do differently next time? Seldom do people want to own their part when things begin to ravel apart. If we look close enough at the situation and the circumstances there is enough responsibility to go around.
Life is still choice driven; we win and lose based on our decisions, so choose wisely.
Stay in Peace
The Designer’s Original